September, 2008 | Cuddling on the Wild Side

The Folsom Muscle Feast

Outside my hotel on Market St. Looks like I'm in the right area.

What do you do when there are thousands of hot leather boys in one city? Well, if you’re me, you try to meet as many as you can. Now you’re probably thinking I slept with many of them, and that would have been an accurate assumption a couple months ago, but now I have a monogamous boyfriend. And there were many hot and fun guys there, but I was indeed good. It doesn’t mean I didn’t have a great time, I did. I met up with many of my real friends, cyber friends (including Moby, Adam and Frank – my other friends don’t have blogs), and made some new friends too. I did some tourist things, quite a bit of shopping including stops at Mr S Leather and Chaps, made it to the gym and some parties.

Let me just say I love public transportation in SF. It makes of super easy to get around. I stayed at Hotel Whitcomb on Market and 8th with a train stop right outside the front door. Made it easy to hop on the Muni and go to the Castro or just walk down to the Folsom Street area.

Out at Folsom with one of my friends from Dallas

The whole weekend was fantastic. The main things I went to was the Big Muscle party, the Folsom Street Fair and the Real Bad party. It was a toss up between the Fair and the Big Muscle party as to which was the best. There were tons of hot guys at the Big Muscle party and it was really easy to talk and meet guys there, just wish the space was a little bigger. The Fair was awesome because I ran into many friends and got to see many different fetishes. I still didn’t see much sex this year. The Real Bad party is really just a circuit party in every sense from what I’ve seen. I haven’t been to one of the big ones, but this seemed close. I don’t think I’d go to Real Bad again unless it was with friends. Too much dancing and no real ability to talk to people.

I’ll return to Folsom sometime in the next couple years, but I’ll use the money to go somewhere else next year.

Screaming Your Safe Word

Yup, I’m leaving for Folsom in just a little over 12 hrs, and while I know what goes on there, I’m not really sure what’s going to happen this year. While there, I don’t plan to be in a position to need a Safe Word, but some boys may.

For those that don’t know, a Safe Word is a word/phrase that is used to stop a scene/session. There are some variations on it including words that partners will use to notify each other that they are getting near a threshold, and words to notify that things are good to start. They are very useful for situations, especially when you’re learning your partner’s real limits. One thing is I always let me sub choose their Safe Word because it NEEDS to be something they can easily remember in the passion. It’s then my responsibility to remember it, but it’ll also stand out when they scream it.

Safe words are very useful in sessions, I just wish they could be used in life. There are many times where I’d just want to be able to stop everything, get out of the scene and go back to the way things are. Granted, pushing your limits is what makes you grow, but there are some times when you can’t mentally, physically and/or emotionally push those limits. Quite often talking and expressing yourself is the best way to work through these situations, but some times you just can’t handle it.

Folsom Street Fair

It’s just a little over a week until Folsom this year and I’m planning on being there, although I haven’t made any plans yet (later today hopefully). Here’s a little blurb from their website that explain what Folsom is for anyone that may not know:

In 2008 the world’s largest leather event, the Folsom Street Fair^tm, will celebrate its 25th anniversary on Sunday, September 28, 2008 from 11:00 AM to 6:00 PM.

The Folsom Street Fair is a true San Francisco original. With over 400,000 people in attendance covering 13 city blocks, the Fair is the largest leather/fetish event in the world and the third largest, single-day outdoor event in California. Folsom Street Events is thrilled to celebrate the historic 25th Folsom Street Fair with style and a week’s worth of truly outstanding events and programs over the course of San Francisco Leather Week.

Last year in 2007 was my first time attending and it was my first big leather event and 2nd big gay event outside of Minnesota. Folsom 2007 met many of my expectations, but many fell very far short. My first impression of the gay mecca was not the transcendant and surreal experience I expected. Instead it was fast-paced and self-centered. I had talked with a couple guys online before going that happened to be on my connecting flight to SF. These guys ended up becoming my roommates here in Texas, and that was a very good thing. The 3 of us attended the Big Muscle Meet and Greet. It was awesome seeing so many big hot muscle guys there.

One of the hotties at Folsom 2007. If you look closely, he shaved in some abs.

We also went to the Magnitude party on Saturday night. It’s a bunch of muscle and other leather boys gathered all together. Which sounds cool, until you realize that they are all tweaked out and it was 500 billion degrees in the place. Dungeon Beds provided about 5 beds that anyone could use for a variety of things from fucking to fisting to sucking. I may have even participated and let a guy suck my cock. The fisting and fucking was very hot to watch. I don’t plan to go back to Magnitude anytime soon.

Sunday was the actual Street Fair which was pretty good, but didn’t quite live up to my expectations. Of course you had the naked people, and some jacking off, but I didn’t see any sex happening. There were also many more straight people there than I expected.

Even though last year wasn’t quite what I expected, it was also my introduction to the global leather community. I’m going back this year with different expectations and different plans. I’m planning to be there Friday Sept 26th and will be leave Tuesday Sept 30th. I’m hoping to make a lot of friends, buy some toys, and come back with some stories. Let me know if you’re going to be in the area.

Leather Post Responds

If you read my review of Leather Post, you’ll notice it wasn’t the nicest review in the world. I’ve had a couple emails with them back and forth, and this is the latest they sent to me:

Hi Chris,

I’m the owner of Leatherpost. The final part of your order is set to ship on Wednesday when the double hinged handcuffs come in. We had a glitch in our system and they didn’t get put on an early PO. As luck would have it your expectation of a problem manifested.

You are quite a talented fellow. I’ve been trolling the net looking at your various websites. Are you a freelance flash guy? I’m looking for someone to do some banner ads for us. Have you done any 3D fetish graphics? Are you “milkdog” on xtube? Woof.

In your email you seemed to want something additional from us? Is there something I can do to make you a happy customer at this point? We’ve given you free shipping, a discount, and shipped you two partial orders at our expense. We are known for our stellar customer service and I feel we’ve had pretty amazing communication with you up to this point. Are you going to Folsom Street Fair?

I hope you don’t feel it is necessary to harm our business by posting negative things about us on your blog. If there is something I can do to make you a happy customer. Please just ask.

Warm regards,
Everett
Leatherpost CEO

Trying to figure out how to respond. Let me know if you have any suggestions.

Kinky Shopping – Part 2

Check out Part 1 of the kinky shopping series. I’m reviewing places that I’ve shopped. Part 3 to infinity will be coming as I buy more stuff online.

Leatherpost
I recently placed an order with Leatherpost, but I was a little hesitant to do so because one of my friends placed an order with them last year. It took them over a month to complete the order, and if memory serves correct, they sent a wrong item too.

I placed my order on August 18th for 9 items and am currently experiencing similar issues. The reason I ordered from them was because they had a product I really wanted and were the cheapest by $6. A couple days after I placed my order, I received an email saying that some items were on back-order. I told them about the bad experience my friend had had and asked them to send the items they had. Leatherpost assured me I would not be having the same issues and they would send the items asap. On their website, they did state that one item would take some extra time because it would have to be shipped from London, and I had no problem with that, but didn’t think it would affect my whole order. I received Round 1 fairly quickly. It was then over 3 weeks since I placed the order, that I received round 2 of items. I checked my original order and noticed that I have 2 items still pending. I sent them another email expressing my concern and dissatisfaction so far.

Update Leatherpost has responded, and it looks like the final round of my order should be shipping soon.

While they do have a good selection of products and low prices, just be warned that the products may not get there in a timely manner. I would look for products elsewhere first if possible. They will respond to any emails pretty quickly letting you know what the problem is though.

Mr S Leather
One of the most well known names in fetish stores is Mr S Leather and there is a very good reason for that. They are one of the longest running stores, many of their products are custom made or are the exclusive dealers. They offer products for all levels of fetish-players ranging from inexpensive items for the beginner to high end products for the experienced. They also have a very good customer service department. I visited their store in San Fransisco during Folsom 2007 and it was an impressive selection. They even do custom harness building on-site. The only issue I have with them is that the price is higher than average, but it is well worth it for the piece of mind in knowing you’ll get your order in a timely manner and the products will be high quality. Their site can be a little difficult to navigate when they divide different product sections by brand name, but their search works great.

I’ve also been looking at 665, but have not yet bought anything from them yet. I do like their site design and the products they carry. Another site is Nasty Pig. I have bought some of their awesome products, but not from their site yet. I’ll be doing some product reviews over time.

Let me know what you think of differnt online kink stores.

Kinky Shopping – Part 1

I’m working on my way to stocking up my own dungeon, but currently I’ve only filled up a duffel bag and a milk crate. I’m still working on the dungeon space part too. Let me know if you have a place. During this time, I’ve been doing some shopping at different places and I’m going to share those experiences with you.

Fort Troff
They are true pigs with much of their stuff is targeted towards ass pigs. Remember that when you look at their dildo selection, especially at the 2-liter bottle size. If you do order any ass toys from them, get out a ruler and think about how big they actually are. I’ve placed one order through them and had a good experience. The product arrived quickly and they use a some sexy camo tape for packaging. I’ve also used some of their custom products, like the Fisting Bench and it’s sturdy and versatile like any ass pig would want. The prices are a little high, but they may just have something that you can’t find elsewhere. I have also ran into them at places like IML and they really take care to make sure that their products are displayed nicely. The site isn’t the easiest to navigate, but they have some fucking HOT pics (that they actually took) and some nice demo videos of their products.

JT’s Stockroom
This is one of the first online fetish store from which I placed an order. There are two sides to the site, a gay and a straight, but they have done an amazing job at hiding that fact. You won’t find any boobs or ‘ginas on this site, like others. They have a great selection of fetish items, but I don’t believe any of them are their own creation. I’ve placed a couple orders through them and also bought some stuff from them at IML. Only problem with them is one lady at IML deceived me on some nipple clamps I bought. I wanted something that would tighten down and not come off easily. Well, they come off easily. But it’s a very minor scrape on the great experience I’ve had with them. Their prices are some of the best I’ve seen out there on many products, and they are quick to respond to any questions.

Part 2, which will include Leatherpost and Mr S Leather will come on Monday.

Real Story: Move the Boxes, Bitch

He was begging for more.

A couple weeks this older, furry, muscular, submissive guy wanted to meet up with me at the gym. We did and had a pretty good workout, but I also needed some help getting some boxes from my storage and putting them in my car. He had some extra time so I told him he was going to help me.

We got to my storage place just down the street from my gym. It was a hot Texas August evening. He followed me down a short, but dimly lit hallway to where my storage room was. I unlocked the doors and had him follow me in. As soon as he walked in the door grabbed him and threw him against the wall in the dingy storage room lit only by 1 weak light bulb. With my arm holding him against the wall, I reached over and shut the door.

He wasn’t squirming much, but if he knew what was to come, he should have been. With one arm against his chest I grabbed onto his big nips and started pinching watching the expression on his face. It wasn’t a gentle pinch. He winced a little, but didn’t get the response I want so I started twisting them watching him squirm and getting my dick harder and harder. I then grabbed his head and forced him violently to his knees and told him to unzip my pants and start sucking my thick, uncut cock. He did, just not deep enough. I smacked him across the face for being such a fucking pussy, then grabbed the back of his head and forced my cock down the back of his throat. Grabbing his head and repeatedly thrusting my cock deep into his throat until he was gagging on it and grasping for air.

By this time we were dripping in sweat and I told him to stand up, and get butt-ass naked. He took off his shirt and drop his pants around his ankles. I then grabbed his underwear, pulling it to the ground watching his long and thick cock fall out. I continued to work his pencil-thick nips, making him squirm in delight with each pinch, squeeze, twist and pull. I reached down while working wone of his nips and grabbed his big balls and gave them a nice tug watching him wince in pain. Then a long squeeze to make sure he knew who was in charge. I switched between crushing his balls with both hands and twisting his nipples till he was begging for mercy. I even pulled his balls out tightly with one hand and started smacking them, gently at first, then gradually harder till he was falling towards the floor.

With him being halfway to the ground, I forced him back down to the floor with his pants and underwear around his ankles and continued to face fuck him till I blew my big load into his mouth watching it slowly drip out the sides of his mouth at the same time. Once I was done, pulled my pants back up, grabbed a towel and wiped the dripping sweat and remaining cum off myself. Then threw the towel at him and told him to grab some boxes when he was cleaned up and bring them out to my car. I made that bitch fill up my car, then when I was done drove off.

It was hot, dirty, dark and twisted… perfect for me.

Dirty Messages

I was reading a post on one of my Twitter friend’s blog, and it spurred this post. It’s not a secret, I’m on quite a few websites out there. I’m not going to tell you which ones, but I’m sure you could find me pretty easily if you really wanted too.

Gooster mentions Bear411, in his blog and he has had a fairly different experience there than I have for the most part. I would say that 90-95% of the messages that I receive fall into the “You’re hot” category. Those messages will evoke a couple different responses from me:

A) If they are hot, I will usually message them back hoping something will evolve
B) If they are not hot, it really depends on my mood, the alignment of the stars and if I’m naked or not whether I respond. If I do decided to respond, it may be just a simple “Thanks”, or it may go further into things. Recently I’ve been doing “Thanks.”, with the period if that’ll be my last message to that person. If I leave it open with no period, that means I’ll probably continue a conversation with them if they respond.

The best way to get me to respond is to ask me a question that requires more than a one word answer. Fuck, just ask me a question at all and that’ll improve your chances. I will almost always respond even if I’m not interested. If you’re local, I may even meet up with you if I’m not attracted to you. Just be weary that I will be honest if you ask me if you’re my type. I try not to lie about it, you’re the one that asked. If you have any suggestions on sending effective messages, please let me know.

The other part of Gooster’s post was friends vs hook-ups. It’s very rare I’m looking for just a hook-up. I would greatly prefer to be friends over strictly fuck buds with most guys I meet. When I go to meet any person, I meet them with the plan to become friends. If fucking happens, that’s usually just a bonus, and rarely does it happen again. Not very sure why.

The bottom line is… If you’re attractive (in my eyes) and you message me, there is a very good chance I’ll respond and you better too. If not, I hope you’re fine with just being friends.

A Quarter Century is my Birth

Getting ready to meet some hot leather guys at IML 2008

Let’s start out with the basics. My name’s Chris and fucking kinky gay man living in Austin, TX. Yes, that’s me to the right. I lost my virginity at a ripe age of 23 in a amazing threesome with 2 big hot muscle guys. I never did the chick thing. Since then I dove head first into the deep end of gay culture. During this exploration I’ve met some truly amazing people and learned a lot about who I am. I am still learning about myself and the world around me, and this better continue till the day I die.

I’ve thought about starting a blog for a while and actually started to get this blog set up a couple months ago, but it was today that I decided I would get it truly going. I just turned 25 yesterday and decided it’s time to start documenting and sharing thoughts with the world. Some of the blog will include my sexual exploits, more about my past, my thoughts on the world – past, present and future, and anything else I feel like sharing.