No matter what kind of kinks you are into, dirty talk is an essential part of any bedroom activities (even vanilla!) As a sub, we get our sexual energy from the Dom. So how we “perform” can very well be determined by how the Dom talks to us. Unfortunately, for many people who just start to explore the kink world or are meeting up with complete strangers, it’s difficult to get over the initial embarrassment of talking dirty.

If there is a pair of words that you absolutely need to learn before you start your kink, they will have to be “Sir” and “boy”.

Like many naturally submissive guys, I love being talked down to and there are no other words that can get to my immediately attention than the word “boy”. There is just something naturally degrading about the word. It instantly establishes a hierarchy between the user and the receiver and it is just intimate enough that the receiver feels there is a tiny bit of “love” (or lust) in between. Every time my Master uses the term (which he probably use it 70% even in our “normal” conversations) he reminds and reassures me that I am his property, that he is the Master and I am only good when being told that I am. In a strange way, it’s a comforting word for me and for other subs that I have talked to. In return, by calling my Master “Sir”, I honor his presence and he is the center of my attention.

For beginners who wants to try dirty talks, a great way to start is to verbalize or make a question of the things that you are about to do. For example, when you are about to fuck, instead of just flat staring at each other, try adding some conversational pieces while you are lubing up the condom, like “I’m getting ready to put this cock in you, boy.” And when you’re ready, try a suggestive question like “do you want this meat, boy?” or even “tell me what you want me to do? Tell me how bad you want it.” This will instantly turn all those awkward waiting moments to be foreplay. In times, you will look forward to the talks as much as the sex.

As for subs who likes to take a little bit of control (which you know will just become a humiliation at the end), I suggest start the dirty talk by asking for permissions. Asking whether you can get something from your Master can be arousing for the Master as for yourself. Since my Master will not allow me to touch any part of him without his permission, I have to verbalize almost all my actions. Of course, the fun part is when you start to get denied. It becomes extremely degrading for a sub when he has to ask for permission to do things that he really wants to do (ie: permission to cum or to suck) and things that he hates to happen (ie: permission to be spanked or to lick the floor).

These are just some very basic stuff that are easy to start and hopefully can allow you and your partner to get over the awkwardness of dirty talking. Don’t forget boys, we are not just all butt fucking machines, let’s put some class and dialogues into the sex.