Basics – Age, Location, etc.
I’m a 33 year old guy living in the midwest.
What role do you generally take? Top/btm? Dom/sub?
In the bedroom I don’t usually identify as dom or sub. I’m usually pretty vanilla, in fact. That is not always the case, though. When things lean a little towards the wild side of cuddling I am never submissive. I fantasize about it. I want to be. In the situation, though, I just can’t do it. The fact of the matter is, though, that the best sex happens outside of the bedroom. In fact, it is just plain ol’ outside.
What got you started or interested in the kink world?
Being gay means not fitting into the norm. I think that was the starting block for most of my exploration in the world and is certainly not limited to the bedroom. I’m really turned on by hyper-masculinity. I love how leather looks, feels and smells on a guy.
I’m rather experimental when alone, as well. It started with sounding before I knew there was a word for it. I love cockrings, as well. Auto-erotic kink is especially hot for me because there isn’t the play of personalities, insecurities, wants that is involved in play with others.
What are you most turned on by?
Exhibitionism and voyeurism are the things that get me the most cranked. It’s more seeing bits that we aren’t supposed to be able to see in public. Free-ballers in b-ball shorts, thin trousers, anything that shows off their cocks. A guy who grabs or adjusts himself often is a huge turn-on. If I catch a guy checking my package, it’s on. I get hard immediately and will show him if he seems more interested.
I’ve also started exploring the world of underwear lately. Not to wear, mind you. I never wear them. I’ve had a couple of guys send me some… soiled… underwear in the mail. It’s pretty hot.
What do you hope to be able to contribute to Cuddling on the Wild Side?
With the writing I’m doing here I hope to get guys going. It’s part of my exhibitionist personality. I love the idea of a guy getting off reading my work. More than that, though, I want there to be some writing available for our community that mixes intelligent, sci-fi with gay sexuality and erotica. Most of what I read is like a letter to Penthouse or is just poorly written. I’m not a trained writer. I’m not even sure I’m a good writer, but I am writing what I wish I were finding elsewhere. I can certainly get off on straight up fuck-tales but I think this will be an interesting extension.
Is watched at Starbucks. I love looking at porn in public and getting a bone and knowing that other guys do it too. I’m looking at a guy right now whose legs are doing the in-out squeeze that we all do, consciously or not, when we can’t just reach down and rub it. It’s hot.
Besides the where, I love cum-swallowing vids and bareback porn. Big, uncut cocks really get me going as well. Vanilla porn just bores me. X-tube is a great thing as well. Love seeing some guy in his living room jacking it. Better yet is to see him in the car or public showing off. If a guy gets caught in a vid I nut almost immediately! And, of course, self-suckers and self-swallowers. It’s a good thing.
Love Hot House Entertainment, Alexander Pictures (I write for him as well), and Treasure Island Media. These are the porn producers I watch most.
What else should everyone know about you?
There is a lot to know about me. I’m engaging life on as many levels as possible. I’m active in my spirituality, physicality, and intellect. I’m always in some class or another. I teach classes myself. I’m a martial artist, as well. Mostly I think it’s important that people know I’m a whole person with a whole life. I think that’s what it means to be healthy. We can’t just live in a fantasy world. We do, though, need to have fantasies in order to create more in our everyday existence. Why not a little magic?