Cuddling on the
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Your version of sex is just not sex. Did something bad happen to you growing up to make you want to inflict pain on another and call it sex?

I got that message from a guy on adam4adam.com. Now really… what the fuck? Check out my profile and take a look.

Yeah, I’m a kinky fucker, but I have a feeling you probably already know that. What would make “my version” of sex, not sex? For me, “sex” is using sexual energies to make a connection with someone. Does it mean that either of us has to blow a load, or someone get’s fucked? Not at all. It’s been a long time since I’ve fucked someone, and a LOT longer since I’ve gotten fucked. Fucking just isn’t a part of what I regularly do for sex. Kinky/BDSM sex often generates a much stronger connection between the people because of the amount of trust it takes between the people. The only thing I’m hoping when kissing another guy is they don’t have mouth herpes or bad breathe.

Has my upbringing affected who I am as a sexual person today? I’m sure it did somehow, but I have no clue how. Yes, my parents were both very dominant, and if I didn’t become as equally as dominant and independent, I would be a push-over. Being gay and having an older brother who got all the attention until he left for college also helped me become very independent.

I was never physically punished as a child. Then again, I was always kind of an outsider through high school, and I did have a couple of bullies. I never got into any physical fights with them though. Actually, I’ve never been in a physical fight with anyone, other than maybe my brother, but that was usually us chasing each other.

To be honest, my whole upbringing was pretty uneventful. I was in the Boy Scouts,  got my Eagle Scout award, and worked at a Boy Scout camp for 6 years. I’ve always naturally fallen into a leadership role, so that may explain why I tend towards being Dominant. It still doesn’t explain my innate interest in kink though, and I’m fine with that.

I can definitely tell you how I found out I was interested in kinky shit in one word. Porn. Yes, it was the wonderful world of downloaded kinky porn that showed my that watching a muscle guy get his ball beat got me rock hard. Seeing a nice fist go up his muscle ass and listening to him moan… yup, hard again.

To the person who sent me that message – if you’re passionate and romantic sex can be sex, why can’t my animalistic and yet intellectual sessions be sex?

Oh, and did I mention, he said he’s conservative in his profile.

Today is a special #CommandoFriday, not only because of the dirty pics, but because it’s a day to celebrate a cause.

Friday, July 31, 2009, will be the first-ever National Commando Day, when people across the nation will heighten awareness for prostate cancer by not wearing underwear. Each year, more than 28,000 men die from prostate cancer – that’s one death every 19 minutes. Most prostate cancer cases are treatable with early detection and education. National Commando Day will bring awareness, funds and a little fun to a serious issue.

Are you going to participate? Don’t forget to tweet your proof with the #CommandoFriday tag. Also, see if you can match or beat my donation of $30.

Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

This Friday will be a special #CommandoFriday, not only because of the dirty pics, but because it’s a day to celebrate a cause.

Friday, July 31, 2009, will be the first-ever National Commando Day, when people across the nation will heighten awareness for prostate cancer by not wearing underwear.  Each year, more than 28,000 men die from prostate cancer – that’s one death every 19 minutes.  Most prostate cancer cases are treatable with early detection and education.  National Commando Day will bring awareness, funds and a little fun to a serious issue.

Are you going to participate? Don’t forget to tweet your proof with the #CommandoFriday tag. Also, see if you can match or beat my donation of $30.

Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

Tomorrow I’ll be heading to San Fransisco for Dore Alley. It’s a leather/kink event much like Folsom, just smaller, more intense and more gay. I’ve heard it’s a great time, but I’ve never been before. I’ll be there from Friday till early Monday, so if you’re out there and want to try to meet up, contact me.

I definitely hope to see a lot of my friends that live out there and take a bunch of pictures. I’m not sure I’m going to blog about it like I did for IML, but I’ll definitely give a recap of what happened.

Also, I’ve written a WordPress plugin that will tweet my blog posts to Twitter. The thing that makes this plugin different than other plugins, is tweets in reply to the original tweet will become comments on the post. Let me know if you are interested in trying this experimental plugin.

Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

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Executive Committee of International Mr. Leather has decided that it will no longer allow participation in the IML Leather Market by any entity which promotes barebacking or distributes/sells any merchandise tending to promote or advocate barebacking. [Source: Vendor Memo via Will Clark World]

Read the full article.

Picture yourself at IML 2010. You’re walking through the Leather Market, and you’ll notice that there are a couple of booths not there. Looking through the IML pamphlets and cards, you won’t see anything advocating barebacking. Stop in a hotel room, and the barebacking will likely be at the same level it has been in past years.

First of all, what’s wrong with barebacking? It greatly increases your chance of getting any number of STD including HIV. You could always of course trust the guy you met 5 minutes ago in the lobby when he tells you he’s negative. I don’t take that risk though. Then there is always the chance of getting pregnant… wait, wrong audience, but pulling out still doesn’t work in this case. Between men that are aware of all the risks involved, I don’t really have a problem with barebacking. My generation hasn’t been affected by the HIV/AIDS epidemic in the same way older generations have. For a lot of us, it’s just like walking across a busy intersection – you are pretty sure you’ll make it across safe.

The effects of this decision on the Leather Community are likely going to be relatively small. The same number of people are going to participate in barebacking. Porn studios may, but probably won’t, change their videos to reduce the number of barebacking porn they produce.

What are the effects going to be? Is it going to be good, or make barebacking something people feel ashamed of and have to hide?

Here are some pictures of naked or mostly naked muscle guys that have been morphed. Email me any pics of semi-kinky hot guys you find.

Muscle boy bowing to his Master

“Just doing my usual naked military maneuvers”

Muscle Jock taking off a jock. What’s hotter…

Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

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