Cuddling on the
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Your version of sex is just not sex. Did something bad happen to you growing up to make you want to inflict pain on another and call it sex?

I got that message from a guy on adam4adam.com. Now really… what the fuck? Check out my profile and take a look.

Yeah, I’m a kinky fucker, but I have a feeling you probably already know that. What would make “my version” of sex, not sex? For me, “sex” is using sexual energies to make a connection with someone. Does it mean that either of us has to blow a load, or someone get’s fucked? Not at all. It’s been a long time since I’ve fucked someone, and a LOT longer since I’ve gotten fucked. Fucking just isn’t a part of what I regularly do for sex. Kinky/BDSM sex often generates a much stronger connection between the people because of the amount of trust it takes between the people. The only thing I’m hoping when kissing another guy is they don’t have mouth herpes or bad breathe.

Has my upbringing affected who I am as a sexual person today? I’m sure it did somehow, but I have no clue how. Yes, my parents were both very dominant, and if I didn’t become as equally as dominant and independent, I would be a push-over. Being gay and having an older brother who got all the attention until he left for college also helped me become very independent.

I was never physically punished as a child. Then again, I was always kind of an outsider through high school, and I did have a couple of bullies. I never got into any physical fights with them though. Actually, I’ve never been in a physical fight with anyone, other than maybe my brother, but that was usually us chasing each other.

To be honest, my whole upbringing was pretty uneventful. I was in the Boy Scouts,  got my Eagle Scout award, and worked at a Boy Scout camp for 6 years. I’ve always naturally fallen into a leadership role, so that may explain why I tend towards being Dominant. It still doesn’t explain my innate interest in kink though, and I’m fine with that.

I can definitely tell you how I found out I was interested in kinky shit in one word. Porn. Yes, it was the wonderful world of downloaded kinky porn that showed my that watching a muscle guy get his ball beat got me rock hard. Seeing a nice fist go up his muscle ass and listening to him moan… yup, hard again.

To the person who sent me that message – if you’re passionate and romantic sex can be sex, why can’t my animalistic and yet intellectual sessions be sex?

Oh, and did I mention, he said he’s conservative in his profile.

Today is a special #CommandoFriday, not only because of the dirty pics, but because it’s a day to celebrate a cause.

Friday, July 31, 2009, will be the first-ever National Commando Day, when people across the nation will heighten awareness for prostate cancer by not wearing underwear. Each year, more than 28,000 men die from prostate cancer – that’s one death every 19 minutes. Most prostate cancer cases are treatable with early detection and education. National Commando Day will bring awareness, funds and a little fun to a serious issue.

Are you going to participate? Don’t forget to tweet your proof with the #CommandoFriday tag. Also, see if you can match or beat my donation of $30.

Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

This Friday will be a special #CommandoFriday, not only because of the dirty pics, but because it’s a day to celebrate a cause.

Friday, July 31, 2009, will be the first-ever National Commando Day, when people across the nation will heighten awareness for prostate cancer by not wearing underwear.  Each year, more than 28,000 men die from prostate cancer – that’s one death every 19 minutes.  Most prostate cancer cases are treatable with early detection and education.  National Commando Day will bring awareness, funds and a little fun to a serious issue.

Are you going to participate? Don’t forget to tweet your proof with the #CommandoFriday tag. Also, see if you can match or beat my donation of $30.

Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

Tomorrow I’ll be heading to San Fransisco for Dore Alley. It’s a leather/kink event much like Folsom, just smaller, more intense and more gay. I’ve heard it’s a great time, but I’ve never been before. I’ll be there from Friday till early Monday, so if you’re out there and want to try to meet up, contact me.

I definitely hope to see a lot of my friends that live out there and take a bunch of pictures. I’m not sure I’m going to blog about it like I did for IML, but I’ll definitely give a recap of what happened.

Also, I’ve written a WordPress plugin that will tweet my blog posts to Twitter. The thing that makes this plugin different than other plugins, is tweets in reply to the original tweet will become comments on the post. Let me know if you are interested in trying this experimental plugin.

Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

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Executive Committee of International Mr. Leather has decided that it will no longer allow participation in the IML Leather Market by any entity which promotes barebacking or distributes/sells any merchandise tending to promote or advocate barebacking. [Source: Vendor Memo via Will Clark World]

Read the full article.

Picture yourself at IML 2010. You’re walking through the Leather Market, and you’ll notice that there are a couple of booths not there. Looking through the IML pamphlets and cards, you won’t see anything advocating barebacking. Stop in a hotel room, and the barebacking will likely be at the same level it has been in past years.

First of all, what’s wrong with barebacking? It greatly increases your chance of getting any number of STD including HIV. You could always of course trust the guy you met 5 minutes ago in the lobby when he tells you he’s negative. I don’t take that risk though. Then there is always the chance of getting pregnant… wait, wrong audience, but pulling out still doesn’t work in this case. Between men that are aware of all the risks involved, I don’t really have a problem with barebacking. My generation hasn’t been affected by the HIV/AIDS epidemic in the same way older generations have. For a lot of us, it’s just like walking across a busy intersection – you are pretty sure you’ll make it across safe.

The effects of this decision on the Leather Community are likely going to be relatively small. The same number of people are going to participate in barebacking. Porn studios may, but probably won’t, change their videos to reduce the number of barebacking porn they produce.

What are the effects going to be? Is it going to be good, or make barebacking something people feel ashamed of and have to hide?

Here are some pictures of naked or mostly naked muscle guys that have been morphed. Email me any pics of semi-kinky hot guys you find.

Muscle boy bowing to his Master

“Just doing my usual naked military maneuvers”

Muscle Jock taking off a jock. What’s hotter…

Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

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I’m going to do a post on poppers, but wanted to get your take on them. Please leave comments on your thoughts about poppers.

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We all know it, the economy sucks. Now I don’t get into political stuff, or really too much that isn’t kink, sexual or relationship orient often, but when something like a recession impacts your ability to buy sex toys or find a trick, that is a problem.

Looking for a job?
Don’t put the fact you are looking for a specific type of job in your Manhunt or Craigslist ad and go to meet a guy you aren’t interested in about this proposed job. Especially if he uses the words “house boy” (unless that’s your thing). Trust me on this one, I got screwed out of some valuable time.
Do mention it after a good hook-up especially if you know the guy is in a related field. Or you could try putting it on the back of your trick card (it’s like a business card for sex).

If you need a little extra cash?
Don’t tell people you’ll do anything for just a little extra money. People have some twisted fantasies and unless you’re really into it. You don’t want to be a part of it. Ask yourself, “Do I look good in panties with shit dripping out of my mouth?”
Do put yourself out on escort sites or look into a career in porn. This is good for guys that have no shame and aren’t planning a career in politics. Ask people in the industry for advice before getting into these things.

Want to save a little bit of cash?
Don’t re-use condoms. It just doesn’t work no matter how much you try to wash it.
Do make your trick bring their own condoms. Tell them it’s going to be a wild session, so bring a lot. Then snatch them and the lube while you let them “clean-up” in your cold shower because you don’t have hot water.

Trying to find a trick on the cheap?
Don’t wait in the lobby of a mental institution for the first guy you think that you could take advantage of. There are laws against stuff like that, and it’s just wrong.
Do stand outside the bathhouse and ask guys if they will cover your fee for getting in. Expect that you’ll have to service this person in some way.

Tired of looking for a job?
Don’t put an ad out for a Sugar Daddy unless you are planning to lower your standards. Think about the worst guy you’ve slept with then add 20 yrs and lower your standards below him. Nope, lower still. And just a couple more notches lower. Then imagine that’s the best you’ll get.
Do try offering sexual favors to people in exchange for services. Try your landlord, banker, auto-mechanic, etc.

This will post any pics that have been posted with the #commandofriday tag on twitter and use TwitPic or yFrog. Check back throughout the day and next week. As more people post them, they will automatically appear here. Also check out CommandoFriday on Twitter. Let me know if you have any other requests/suggestions.

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Like most people, you’ve probably wondered, what is it like to be fucked by a German Sheppard. Or maybe a horse is too big for you and you want to try a Pony without being charged for pedophilia.

Well, now you can do it and not feel quite as vile and crazy. Get your own animal dildos. They come in many shapes and sizes including dogs, horses and more. Plus there is no need to try to train your dog either, or the uneasy feeling if after the first time, the chemistry just isn’t quite there.

This can also be great for humiliation play.

German Sheppard dildo

A pony dildo, for those that can't handle the horse dildo

Check out more at Kinky Consumer

I do need to give a shout-out to the Derek and Romaine Show on Sirius/XM OutQ for mentioning this.

The Leather Pride flag being carried through the Twin Cities Pride

This past weekend, I went to Minneapolis for Pride and to visit my family. I spent 24 yrs there, it’s where I came out, so it’s nice to get back there and see my friends. It didn’t hurt that it was 30F cooler than Texas either. Twin Cities Pride weekend is the 3rd largest in the US and the parade alone attracts about 125,000 people.

If you’re reading this expecting some wild, kinky, hot stories… you’re not going to find any from this trip. Sorry.

I spent much of the weekend at one of my favorite bars, the Minneapolis Eagle. There were a lot more guys wearing leather than I had remembered, so that was very cool. On Saturday night, I managed to make out with and manhandle about 4 different guys in the bar. The problem was all of them were staying with friend, and I was with my parents. I like things wild and kinky, but I still like a bed and things like that. So, I didn’t get any action over the weekend.

At the Pride Festival I was a little disappointed there was only one leather-related booth and that was the local leather club, the Atons. In past years there were some leather stores, but nothing this year. I’m guessing they were impacted by the recession.

The main kink-related excitement actually happened in the airport on the way back to Texas. When I do trips like this, I fit everything into my carry-on. Apparently there is a screw in my flogger that looked a little suspicious when going through the x-ray machine. So they did a check through my bag and a secondary scan of my flogger.

When she first pulled out my flogger, she was like “what’s this?”

I told her it was a flogger. She then asked “Is this for Renaissance festival type stuff?”

I just said yes because I figured the fewer questions the better. While my flogger was going through the x-ray by itself (and being waved all around the security checkpoint area), she continued to look through my sex bag. She pulled out my bag of nipple toys and looked at them for about 2 minutes. I really wonder what was going through her mind. She briefly pulled the paddle out, and the hand mitts. She also looked in the pouch where I have all my condoms and lubes stored. She didn’t ask any more questions really.

I just sat there and smiled. I actually found it all pretty amusing, although I would have been pretty disappointed if I lost my flogger. I got it back and packed everything up and went on my way.

It’s always best if you can pack your sex/BDSM toys when flying, but if you can’t remember they may decide to take it. Avoid things like rope, cuffs, clubs/extra-large dildos, etc.

Overall, it was a great trip and tons of fun.