It’s a bit late, but I would like to wish everyone a Happy Daddy’s Day. I’m sure some people in the kink community may have people they call a father within the community, but it’s FAR more common to have a Daddy (with a capital D).
Like all kinky terms, they can mean something different to everyone, but a Daddy figure is usually a Dominant figure to a boy (or girl). For me, a Daddy is someone that’s gentle and caring, someone that is protective, and will help a boy grow. Sometimes it’s possible for a boy to outgrow his Daddy, just as a child growing up will grow beyond the need of his father. For some, Daddies are seen more as a domestic and disciplinarian figure rather than an authoritative figure like you might see with a Sir.
Like all titles in the kink community, age is often irrelevant. A Daddy could be 20 years younger than the boy and still be perfectly acceptable. It’s based on what feels right for those in that relationship. The rules, boundaries and protocol for that relationship should be set by those in it. For what many people could consider a Master/slave relationship, those in it may just consider it a Daddy/boy relationship. It’s up to them to create those definitions. Often times they will be influenced by the community they are in, but should never be ruled by it.
Daddy’s Day this year is a little more important to me than past years because this year I do have a person that I call Daddy. Yes, I am normally very Dominant, but there is a small part of me that has a need for a gentle and caring Daddy. It’s not very uncommon for normally Dominant people to sub for someone special. As one of my friends says… every Daddy (or Sir) needs a Daddy.
I’m not going to provide much information on my Daddy right now, and those of you that follow me on Twitter, may even have an idea of who he is. For now though, my lips are sealed. My Daddy is going to be visiting this coming weekend, and I’ll get to meet my Daddy in person for the first time. So look for a post next week about it. I’m very excited to meet him and I’m looking forward to where things may go.