Cuddling on the
Wild Side

I was never around when cruising the bars was the main way to pick up guys, but I kind of wish I was. The internet has its advantages because you don’t have to “take the time” to ask them questions and get to know them, you can just read all about them in their profile. Sometimes guys also just don’t want to admit some of their interests, even when asked point-blank.

The problem I have is with pictures especially. There’s guys that will message me online, and their pictures will look alright, but nothing really strikes me about them. Sometimes I don’t even respond to these people if they message me. Then I’ll see them in person, and they generally look the same, but there is something about them that does strike me. It could just be their natural charisma, their mannerisms, or something else, but at that point I want to get to know them better.

It could also just be that I wasn’t in a good or social mood when you messaged me. There are many reasons why I don’t respond, and unless I was an ass to you online, I ask that you give me a 2nd chance in person.

In person I’m generally pretty clear if I like you. Not always saying that I want to have sex with you, but friends are always good too. If I’m touching you for more than a couple seconds, it’s a good sign. If I’m avoiding eye contact and talk to you for less than 2-3 minutes, it’s a bad sign, unless I just got to the bar and I’m looking for some friends.

So give me a second chance if you see me in person, and forgive me if I don’t recognize you from your profile. Also, I’ll do my best to give you a second chance in person, but if things still don’t click… it happens.

 

One of my friends sent me a real story of one of his first kink experiences. It opened up his eyes and allowed him to feel more comfortable exploring other kinks. Check it out and post what you think, he’s interested in finding out.

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I’m 24 and its 1996.  I was going to rural school in the Pacific Northwest and there was a distinct shortage of sex opportunities.  Thankfully there was the internet, even though it was just beginning.

I started a conversation with a guy who lived in a town in Oregon.  He was older, late 50s if memory serves, but he had a handsome face and he assured me he kept good care of himself.  (I was a bit pickier about body shapes at that time, having never even heard of “bear” before)  After a couple of months of chatting, we agreed to meet.  I’d drive down to Medford and if things went well we’d have some fun.  After taking the necessary safety precautions for meeting someone at their place after only knowing them online, I set up the date.

I left early on a Saturday morning.  The drive down was uneventful and fast – though I have to admit being a little motivated towards speeding a bit.  I pulled into his driveway and have to admit I was impressed.  He had a nice place – not palatial, but decently sized and well maintained and it had a great view of the Rogue River.  There was an outbuilding with a military Hummer out front.  I pulled up, turned off the engine and braced myself – first meetings can be awkward and you never know how honest folks will be online.

From behind the outbuilding walked a man – tall, but not overly so.  Just shy of 6′ I think.  He was in army camos and sported a high and tight salt & pepper buzzcut and looked to be in excellent physical shape.  He smiled, which softened his features and turned me on – we shook hands in greeting.

Now prior to that day I’d never really done anything truly adventurous sexually.  I enjoyed vanilla sex and never really thought about doing anything more aside from a passing fantasy or two.  Well, we had agreed to a set of activities and he asked if I liked what I saw and if I was still interested in what we talked about.  I think he sensed my nervousness and stated plainly that if anything was going too far all I had to do is ask him to stop with a safe word.  Too bad I can’t remember what it was…  So after we agreed he started the fantasy.

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I already posted about getting my dungeon/playroom started, but it takes gear and toys to get one started. It takes a while to get gear and I’ve made mistakes over the years, especially in the maintenance and care of some of it. Hopefully you won’t repeat some of my mistakes.

I tried to organize most of my gear based on use, type and just what I enjoy. There’s a lot of things here, but I’ll try to cover it all.

1. Bondage Gear
   Above is leather mitts, masks (leather and rubber).
   Below are restraints. Some are nice padded restraints, while others are actually some neoprene and velcro straps for attaching to cables and lifting. These are great for intro bondage.
   Right are various ropes. I’ve never been big on rope bondage, but Daddy has been teaching me some.
   There are also some clips there to make bondage much easier
2. CBT Toys
   Behind the number is a humbler and a pressure board. Both are very fun
   Below are just some blindfolds.
3. Impact Play
   Variety of paddles, floggers, and a crop. They all have their various uses…
4. “Costumes”
   That’s really the best word I have for them. It’s a variety of things including uniforms, sports gear and some Halloween costumes.
5. Gags
   A variety of gags for different uses. One that can be used to piss through, a ball gag, and a full mouth gag. There is also a special one just for Daddy to use on me.
6. Miscellaneous
   Just the small things. Mostly implements of torture/pleasure for the nips and balls.
7. Homemade Spreader Bars
8. Lubes and Condoms
   A variety of lubes. My favorite are the Fire and Ice by Fleshjack and Str8Cam Lube, at least for using with my Fleshjack. The Shaft is a nice water-soluble lube that’s good for cock pumping.
   It’s also good to have a variety of condoms because you never know what might happen. Plus I always play safe. It’s good to even use them on toys.
9. Duct Tape
   You never know when duct tape might come in handy with a mouthy boy.
10. Safety
    There’s a First Aid Kit there, as well as some medical scissors and a Gerber multi-tool. It’s good to have things like this on hand because you never know what might happen.
11. Cock Pumps
    I really enjoy pumping my cock, and it’s fun to pump a boy’s cock too. There’s a variety of sizes and lengths. For beginners, find something barely larger than your cock in width. I like the pump with the pressure gauge on it too.

In the drawer below there, I have all my ass toys. It’s best if you can store these so they aren’t touching, and kept away from the lube. This is especially important if you have silicone toys and silicone lube. Also, make sure you get quality ass toys. I recommend silicone or other high quality toys. If you don’t know what materials it’s made of, don’t buy it. I know personally, I have a slight allergic reaction to most rubber-based toys. They essentially cause annoying irritation. If you currently have these, it’s a good idea to use them with a condom.

Not everything fits nicely on the hooks, so I also got a wire shelving unit. Combined with some containers, it works very well. I got plenty of white towels to help clean-up, then be bleached. On top you’ll see a large roll of plastic wrap. I got this for when I moved to Seattle, but I can think of many better uses for it… <eg>

That’s a good chunk of my gear/toys/etc there. If you have any specific questions or comments, wondering where I got something… send me an email or post a comment.

There’s just so many things absolutely amazing about this picture.  It’s fucking hot as hell!!

All pictures are clickable to see the full size

I finally moved into a house where I could actually have a dungeon/playroom of my own. It’s a rental, so I can’t quite do everything I’d want to, but it’s a nice size room and I’m not sure what else I would use it for.

This is my first time setting something like this up, but I’ll share my experience of doing it with you and as I improve it, I’ll share that too. If you have any questions, let me know. I’ll provide links where possible.

This is the main part of my storage. If you can look past all the gear/toys, here’s what it consists of:

• A pre-built closet with a hanger bar and drawers
• 2 – 2′x4′ pegboards spray-painted black mounted using 1x2s
• Pegboard wire baskets
• Lots of pegboard hooks (I bought 2 30-piece packs)
• 5-tier black wire shelving unit
• Plastic containers
• Lighting!
• First Aid Kit

It was all pretty easy to setup and only took part of a day once I had everything. I was lucky with the closet in the room and with a couple modifications it became very useful. If you have a saw and a screwdriver setting up the pegboard is really easy. I just spray-painted it black to look nice. When buying the pegboard hooks, look at the different packages and see what would be useful for you. I really love the baskets.

The hanger bar was nice for hanging some gear. Right now it’s mostly sports gear and some other “costumes”, but I may put some of my leather gear here too. Depending on what you have, this isn’t really a must.

About the only mistake I made here was with the containers. I didn’t really think about what I was going to put in them before I bought them. The smaller ones were much better for most of what I had. I probably could have gotten by without the larger ones.

As with any dungeon too, lighting is important. It can be hot to have it be all dark and dirty, but good lighting can give it a dirty feeling, yet provide enough light for safety, fun and easy picture taking. Who doesn’t like a pic of a hot muscle boy all bound and beaten…

You’ll also notice on the wire rack that there are quite a few towels. Get white ones so you can easily bleach the hell out of them in case any bio-material gets on them. I got a pack of full bath-size towel and 2 packs of smaller towels. The towels really are a must for any dungeon.

The drawers are great for my dildos and other ass toys too. I’ll post a pic of that in my follow-up dungeon gear/toys post.

There’s also a first aid kit, which should be part of any kink toy bag or dungeon. I always carry a small one with when traveling and wanted a bigger one for my dungeon. You never know what may happen and it’s a good idea to have something around. Mistakes happen, so plan for them. This one was like $13 at Target.

If you look in the upper-right corner of the main picture, you’ll also see an eye-screw in the wall. There are a couple throughout the room that I can use for a variety of bondage. I’m still working on figuring where all I’ll want them, but they should be nice to have.

I still haven’t used the dungeon yet, but once I do, I’ll let y’all know how it turns out. I’ll also be posting more about all the gear I have in a follow-up post.

Many people have their stores that they think of when they think of kink gear – Mr S, Stockroom, etc, but you really should check out Amazon for some of your needs.

I was looking for a cattle prod and found this one, and then I looked down at the “Customers who bought this also bought…” section and I see 2 books called “Two Knotty Boys Show You the Ropes”. Yes, the kinksters love their Amazon.

You can actually find a good variety of things on there – dildos, pumps, jockstraps, and more. Check it out and let me know if you find anything particularly good.

It’s been a while since I wrote about myself, mostly because I was busy with my then BF, now ex. We split up last week because things just weren’t working for me. Because of that, I hadn’t been able to write about any new experiences really either. That’s going to change though…

Also, I should backtrack a little bit… right before Christmas, I moved to Seattle WA from Austin TX. I was getting tired of the heat and my (then) BF lived in Seattle. So I made the move and I’m happy to have done it. The job I had when I got here was horrible and sketchy, but I found another new job quickly and I’m very much loving it.

With the move and other stuff, I didn’t have time for the gym, but I’m getting back to it better than ever. Working on my goal to become a 275+ lbs muscle beast.

I’m renting a house here in West Seattle which is large and spacious, it even has a “bonus room” in the basement I’m converting into a dungeon/playroom. It is duplex though and the shared walls are very thin. If anyone has any soundproofing ideas, please let me know!! I’ve been getting the dungeon ready this weekend, and will post some tips for how I did it with pictures once I’m done.

Thank you to everyone that visits my blog, please check out the sponsors as they help keep the site running when you buy things from them using my links. If you’re ever in Seattle, and want to meet up, please let me know.

Also, let me know if there’s anything you’d like me to write more about.

This is what I’m hoping will be the beginning of a series I’m calling Kinker’s Korner. It’s going to be a series of things written by people I admire in the kink/leather community. It might be something they’ve already written, or something just for WildCuddler.com.

Sir Olivier (Facebook) and pup Sparky are two people that I follow on Twitter and have come to learn a lot about different types of kinks. They have the regulars, but they are also pros at finding other fun things like what they describe a bit of below. Sir Olivier is also the Exec- Co Producer ILSb/ICBB, so if you’re in SF during Dore, you might keep an eye out for them

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Living Leather 101

by: Sir Olivier & pup Sparky

“Stick to This – A journey in tactile expression…”

With one step, a journey begins. There’s no right or wrong way to begin in a situational world. Only as guided by our own ethics, morals and life experiences. The Leather journey is a unique one. It tests us in ways we’ve never conceived of before and stretches our abilities to the breaking point. Before Leather these abilities were not only foreign and intimidating, but by some perspectives – contemptible.

Our most cherished traditions, stories and experiences throughout history, were passed on in both written and spoken form, taking new life and direction with every passing generation. It wasn’t a stagnant, stationary concept. Traditions, while holding to a central true belief, molded themselves around the needs of each passing progeny. They breathed, grew, or died. It was the natural order of things.

When the idea was presented to start writing articles about our experiences in Leather, our Leather journey, we wanted to do it in a way that emphasized the way of the old Tribes. These stories, ideas or beliefs we share, are not necessarily unique, just from our perspective. They are viewed through our eyes, colored by our experiences and growth as Leather people. Read the rest of this post »