I was never around when cruising the bars was the main way to pick up guys, but I kind of wish I was. The internet has its advantages because you don’t have to “take the time” to ask them questions and get to know them, you can just read all about them in their profile. Sometimes guys also just don’t want to admit some of their interests, even when asked point-blank.
The problem I have is with pictures especially. There’s guys that will message me online, and their pictures will look alright, but nothing really strikes me about them. Sometimes I don’t even respond to these people if they message me. Then I’ll see them in person, and they generally look the same, but there is something about them that does strike me. It could just be their natural charisma, their mannerisms, or something else, but at that point I want to get to know them better.
It could also just be that I wasn’t in a good or social mood when you messaged me. There are many reasons why I don’t respond, and unless I was an ass to you online, I ask that you give me a 2nd chance in person.
In person I’m generally pretty clear if I like you. Not always saying that I want to have sex with you, but friends are always good too. If I’m touching you for more than a couple seconds, it’s a good sign. If I’m avoiding eye contact and talk to you for less than 2-3 minutes, it’s a bad sign, unless I just got to the bar and I’m looking for some friends.
So give me a second chance if you see me in person, and forgive me if I don’t recognize you from your profile. Also, I’ll do my best to give you a second chance in person, but if things still don’t click… it happens.