I ask because:
- I don’t like being out of control, but simultaneously want someone else I can trust to take over.
- I’ve never bottomed before but constantly think about it.
- I have a dominant, fiesty personality but wish I could meet someone who saw through that and took charge.
It sounds like you’re submissive, but haven’t found the right person to work with you. It should take time to get to know someone and see if you want to submit to them. There may be a connection and there may not be. You might want to also explore the Dom(inant) side of things too.
The key on either side is to find mentors that can help you out, and may even train you themselves. They can be other subs or Doms. The key is that you have to get out and explore. If you are having these urges and impulses, it’s good to do your best to explore them.
As for the bottoming part of the question, you can try that apart from the kinky stuff. And being a bottom and submissive do not have to go together. You can be a Dominant bottom and a submissive top, they are just harder to find. When you do bottom, as always, I recommend playing safe and sober. It will reduce any risks that you might catch something regardless of what they tell you their status is. Never trust a person because even they might not know for sure.
Also, if you have a question about anything – email me.