I just attended my 2nd kinky play party this past weekend hosted by some amazing guys. My first was in Dallas, Texas a few years ago. It was my hot friends @JeofPiersonXXX and @HappyFrosh (They both have blogs to linked in their twitter) that invited me to go. I’m usually reluctant to go because I always think that the guys are going to be ugly. I at least knew that they’d be there though.
I know I’m not the only one that gets nervous about play parties, so I wanted to share some advice and tips with y’all if you’re invited to one.
- Make sure you know at least one person decently well, but don’t plan on playing with them. It may happen, but there will likely be other guys you’ll know there.
- Play parties are mostly social functions where play happens. You don’t have to play if you don’t want to. You can just talk with the people around you or watch some of the action.
- Respect the scenes. If you’re in a larger dungeon especially, try to talk in the social areas. Those that are in the scene, especially the bottom, will often have a heightened sense of hearing. Also, don’t just go join a scene without a clearly indicated welcoming.
- They’ll be gear there most likely, but bring anything you want. Also, try to keep it compact and don’t spread it out everywhere. There may be time for show-and-tell, but it’s not in the middle of the dungeon floor.
- If you see a hot guy, talk to them and let him know you’re interested. It is a play party after all. If it’s mutual, you might be doing filthy things moments later, or you might just make a good friend.
- Talk to someone knowledgeable about the space you’re playing in. Find out what the rules are, if there is any type of play encouraged or disallowed, and any other important information.
- Have fun playing or socializing!
Play parties can be a great way to meet people! A lot of these guys might not be online, or go to the bars. So check out a party and have fun!
This past weekends play party was a lot of fun. HappyFrosh bound our friend LockedSteel with chains while I tortured him for about an hour. He’s a fucking loud boy, but the white duct tape sure helped. I also got to meet some other great, local kinksters that I have chatted with a bit on Twitter.