Cuddling on the
Wild Side

I have found the first iPhone Application that is anti-cuddling. I’ve always thought of cuddling to be an innocent and intimate action, but apparently Grindr finds it to be repulsive and offensive.

My Grindr photo they don't have a problem with, unless I want to cuddle.

Over the past few days I’ve had my Grindr profile censored, and every time I get a message that it’s because of the text. At first I thought it was the “kinky” or “rough and wild fun” portion, but nope, that’s not the case. Today I posted “Just a single guy that likes to cuddle.” and within 2 minutes… BAM… censored.

I would maybe understand this if I tried to post a profile on eHarmony or something, but a family friendly gay hook-up app? This is shocking to me. Maybe they’re just trying to start a war with me because the review I wrote of them wasn’t so kind. It’s also the first thing that pops up if you search “Gindr Review”.

I’m a little addicted to Grindr right now, but I’m going to start weening myself off of it. If you haven’t joined yet, don’t. It’s not worth it to join an anti-cuddling group. I also urge all pro-cuddlers to start weening themselves off of Gindr too until you have no need for it.

Please join the fight and spread the word on Facebook, Twitter or your blog (feel free to post in full with a link back here).

This Friday will be a special #CommandoFriday, not only because of the dirty pics, but because it’s a day to celebrate a cause.

Friday, July 31, 2009, will be the first-ever National Commando Day, when people across the nation will heighten awareness for prostate cancer by not wearing underwear.  Each year, more than 28,000 men die from prostate cancer – that’s one death every 19 minutes.  Most prostate cancer cases are treatable with early detection and education.  National Commando Day will bring awareness, funds and a little fun to a serious issue.

Are you going to participate? Don’t forget to tweet your proof with the #CommandoFriday tag. Also, see if you can match or beat my donation of $30.

I look back on all the guys that I’ve played with, dated, been friends with or just known, and there really seems to be a common trend about many of them — a lot of them are HIV+. Now I guess I don’t know if some of them really are, but some signs point to the fact that they are. I’m not a person to ask someone their HIV status, whether a friend or a fuck. For fucks, I just assume everyone is positive. People may fully believe they are negative, and even got tested today, but that doesn’t mean they are. The common HIV tests have a buffer of about 3 months that the test doesn’t include. For friends, it’s not any of my business. They can tell me if they want an feel comfortable, but I’m not going to ask and  it’s not going to change anything.

For dating it has caused some issues, especially at first. As I gain more understanding about HIV and more comfortable with it, things have been going better. I can’t think of any person that’s told me they were positive in person that I shunned away because of that. Now, if they were ugly… that’s a different story.

My other thought is that there are a lot more HIV+ people out there than I realize. Or maybe there are just more in the types of circles I hang out in.

I’m glad that HIV isn’t quite the death sentence it used to be, but it definitely does affect your life in large ways. My generation is seeing HIV in a very different way than the first generations saw it. For a lot of us, it’s an old-gay thing or some think they’ve all died out. Then you have the naive ones that ask and believe the person. Maybe I’m just a cynic, but I won’t believe someone about something that could very much change my life. My generation is being impacted by HIV and reacting to it differently because of everything that’s happened since the first boom. For the older generations, don’t get mad at us because we’re reacting differently, just try to help us understand.

One last factoid from a friend of mine -

More than 1.1 million people in the U.S. are infected with HIV and 232,700 don’t know it.

For all you SF kinksters, check this out.

Daddies, boys, Doms, subs, Tops, bottoms

STOP AIDS Project is hitting the streets again with several new activities and events. We are going where the men meet and want you with us.

Safe, Sane and Consensual have been hallmark values in the leather BD/SM community for decades. STOP AIDS Project is building a team of fetish, kink and leather men to support these values and promote our community’s health and want you with us.

Play parties, workshops on leather BD/SM, events, media campaigns, and that’s just for starters.

If you want to meet new people, do fun activities, get involved in great events, or want to know more about what is coming up, contact us.

Contact: Jorge Vieto 415.575.0150  ext 208
or Email for more information.

Play Safe. Make A Difference. Get Involved. Have Fun.

[source via Twisted Ramblings]