Cuddling on the
Wild Side

Basics – Age, Location, etc.

I’m a 33 year old guy living in the midwest.

What role do you generally take? Top/btm? Dom/sub?

In the bedroom I don’t usually identify as dom or sub. I’m usually pretty vanilla, in fact. That is not always the case, though. When things lean a little towards the wild side of cuddling I am never submissive. I fantasize about it. I want to be. In the situation, though, I just can’t do it. The fact of the matter is, though, that the best sex happens outside of the bedroom. In fact, it is just plain ol’ outside.

What got you started or interested in the kink world?

Being gay means not fitting into the norm. I think that was the starting block for most of my exploration in the world and is certainly not limited to the bedroom. I’m really turned on by hyper-masculinity. I love how leather looks, feels and smells on a guy.

I’m rather experimental when alone, as well. It started with sounding before I knew there was a word for it. I love cockrings, as well. Auto-erotic kink is especially hot for me because there isn’t the play of personalities, insecurities, wants that is involved in play with others.

What are you most turned on by?

Exhibitionism and voyeurism are the things that get me the most cranked. It’s more seeing bits that we aren’t supposed to be able to see in public. Free-ballers in b-ball shorts, thin trousers, anything that shows off their cocks. A guy who grabs or adjusts himself often is a huge turn-on. If I catch a guy checking my package, it’s on. I get hard immediately and will show him if he seems more interested.

I’ve also started exploring the world of underwear lately. Not to wear, mind you. I never wear them. I’ve had a couple of guys send me some… soiled… underwear in the mail. It’s pretty hot.

What do you hope to be able to contribute to Cuddling on the Wild Side?

With the writing I’m doing here I hope to get guys going. It’s part of my exhibitionist personality. I love the idea of a guy getting off reading my work. More than that, though, I want there to be some writing available for our community that mixes intelligent, sci-fi with gay sexuality and erotica. Most of what I read is like a letter to Penthouse or is just poorly written. I’m not a trained writer. I’m not even sure I’m a good writer, but I am writing what I wish I were finding elsewhere. I can certainly get off on straight up fuck-tales but I think this will be an interesting extension.

Favorite porn(s):

Is watched at Starbucks. I love looking at porn in public and getting a bone and knowing that other guys do it too. I’m looking at a guy right now whose legs are doing the in-out squeeze that we all do, consciously or not, when we can’t just reach down and rub it. It’s hot.

Besides the where, I love cum-swallowing vids and bareback porn. Big, uncut cocks really get me going as well. Vanilla porn just bores me. X-tube is a great thing as well. Love seeing some guy in his living room jacking it. Better yet is to see him in the car or public showing off. If a guy gets caught in a vid I nut almost immediately! And, of course, self-suckers and self-swallowers. It’s a good thing.

Love Hot House Entertainment, Alexander Pictures (I write for him as well), and Treasure Island Media. These are the porn producers I watch most.

What else should everyone know about you?

There is a lot to know about me. I’m engaging life on as many levels as possible. I’m active in my spirituality, physicality, and intellect. I’m always in some class or another. I teach classes myself. I’m a martial artist, as well. Mostly I think it’s important that people know I’m a whole person with a whole life. I think that’s what it means to be healthy. We can’t just live in a fantasy world. We do, though, need to have fantasies in order to create more in our everyday existence. Why not a little magic?

Basics – Age, Location, etc.

I’m a 34 year old guy living in Austin, TX. I was born and raised in Omaha, Nebraska, the only child to a couple Navy veterans. Despite them both pushing me to pursue my interest in the arts, as well as their connection to the Navy, my parents still feigned shock when they found out I was gay. Whatevs. I am indeed 100% homo-gay with no interest in ladyparts whatsoever, including boobs, which some gays seem to like. (I don’t get that, please feel free to explain it to me.) I am monogamously coupled with an incredibly sexy guy, we’ve been together 10+ years and are totally crazy about each other.

What role do you generally take? Top/btm? Dom/sub?

I’m a dominant daddybear-top and a muscle grower. That is to say, I love growing my boy and making him get huge for me. Some might classify me as a benevolent dom, as I’m only hard on my sub in the gym and in the bedroom. The rest of the time I’m quite cuddly, but demand physical contact as much as possible.

What got you started or interested in the kink world?

I think everyone is inherently kinky, they just need to discover what their kink is. For us, the muscle grower thing emerged over time as we discovered how mutually crank-turning it is.

Additionally, I appreciate the whimsy of BDSM. Dan Savage calls is “cops and robbers” for grown-ups, and that’s really what I dig about it. It’s creative play with fucking, what could be better than that?

What are you most into?

Muscle growth (see above), feats of strength, body contact, tickle torture, light-to-medium bondage, sex in public, nipple play, flex play, submission wrestling, a little food/sensation play – but not to the point of sploshing.

What do you hope to be able to contribute to Cuddling on the Wild Side?

I want to lend a whimsical and comedic angle to kink. Sometimes I worry that what scares off many prospective kinksters is that the whole world of kink can take itself so seriously, and that can make it difficult to “buy in.” My goal will be to try to show people the fun & free-wheeling side of kink.

Favorite porn(s):

Bound Gods, Anything with Zeb Atlas, Caesar, Matthew Rush, et al. And various and sundry offerings from Raging Stallion & COLT. Also, I like a well-intentioned Xtube post. Even as goofy as this. (Link NSFW, obviously.) You have to admit, it’s a kooky lark when you’re digging out the old action figures to make some indie porn.

What else should everyone know about you?

I’m actually a reasonably nice guy, once you get past the snark.