Cuddling on the
Wild Side

My boyfriend and I are very kinky, but don’t always like to let all of our friends know it, especially being that many of his friends are also business clients. So, we often have to find ways to hide the kink. One example is when he wears his chain collar, he’ll just wear it under his shirt, but I also leave him a key in case he needs to take it off.

Just a simple turn changes this wristband into a bondage device

Something I bought recently that highlights this effect is a simple wristband, but by unbuckling one strap giving it a quick turn it becomes a bondage device for the wrist that can be used in front and behind. The sales clerk at the store I bought it from called it something like “Black Tie Bondage”. It would be awesome to find/create more products like this. There is also a little excitement in being out with your friends knowing that they are looking at something that is often taboo, yet it looks very normal.

One other thing we are doing is creating a little “den-geon” out of his garage he doesn’t use for cars any more. The room is going to be a basic TV room with a vary masculine feel to it, but designed specifically for kink play. That means the floor is going to be something easy to clean, we are thinking stained and sealed concrete. The furniture is going to be light-weight so we can easily move it to the side. The ceiling is going to have exposed beams that we are going to cover with eye bolts all over the whole room for hanging a sling or used for restraints. One last thing is we’re going to have a bookshelf with a locked cabinet as part of it specifically for storing toys such as flogs, rope, and our other implements of torture.

I hope to find and create more of these items and share them with you. It’s a great way to add a little spice to your sex life, whether you go this extreme or just looking for a couple ideas. Let me know what you have done.

A prime example of a guy with Chicken Leg Syndrome

Yes, you’ve all seen it at the gym, the guys that wear long pants at the gym and are always doing chest and arm workouts. They usually suffer from a case of Chicken Leg Syndrome (CLS). It’s a horrible disease where the patient never works out their lower body and instead mistakenly vainly focuses only on their upper body.

There is a quick visual method that can be used for detecting those suffering from CLS. Take a look at the person’s biceps and calf muscles; in most people that suffer from CLS, you will notice that their bicep is larger than their calf muscle. You will see this in the example to the right. There are a few cases where this is an acceptable trait, but those are mostly the exception.

If you, yourself, suffers from CLS, the best cure is to begin including leg workouts in your routine. This may include 1 or more days in your workout cycle. This means doing actual lifts with your legs, not just cardio. Send me an email, or leave a comment and I can recommend some lifts to you.

If you know someone suffering from CLS, please advise them the benefits of working out their lower body. Here are just a few examples:

• Massive increases in your body’s natural testosterone and growth hormone production because your legs are your largest muscle group. This will in turn help the rest of your body grow, including your precious upper body. (source)
• Your legs can easily become your strongest muscle and you’ll attract a lot of attention from hotties when you have your legs press machine maxed out.
• You’ll look good when you’re wearing a swimsuit or naked because you’ll be proportionate. No one wants a top-heavy fuck.

I beg of you, please heed this warning if you suffer from CLS and get some help. It could be a workout partner that has big legs, a different workout routine, or just getting your ass in gear. If you know someone that suffers from CLS, it is your duty to inform them of the benefits of working out their legs to help them as a member of the gym community. Please do your part to stop the disease of CLS from spreading!

Yup, I’m leaving for Folsom in just a little over 12 hrs, and while I know what goes on there, I’m not really sure what’s going to happen this year. While there, I don’t plan to be in a position to need a Safe Word, but some boys may.

For those that don’t know, a Safe Word is a word/phrase that is used to stop a scene/session. There are some variations on it including words that partners will use to notify each other that they are getting near a threshold, and words to notify that things are good to start. They are very useful for situations, especially when you’re learning your partner’s real limits. One thing is I always let me sub choose their Safe Word because it NEEDS to be something they can easily remember in the passion. It’s then my responsibility to remember it, but it’ll also stand out when they scream it.

Safe words are very useful in sessions, I just wish they could be used in life. There are many times where I’d just want to be able to stop everything, get out of the scene and go back to the way things are. Granted, pushing your limits is what makes you grow, but there are some times when you can’t mentally, physically and/or emotionally push those limits. Quite often talking and expressing yourself is the best way to work through these situations, but some times you just can’t handle it.