Cuddling on the
Wild Side

I was never around when cruising the bars was the main way to pick up guys, but I kind of wish I was. The internet has its advantages because you don’t have to “take the time” to ask them questions and get to know them, you can just read all about them in their profile. Sometimes guys also just don’t want to admit some of their interests, even when asked point-blank.

The problem I have is with pictures especially. There’s guys that will message me online, and their pictures will look alright, but nothing really strikes me about them. Sometimes I don’t even respond to these people if they message me. Then I’ll see them in person, and they generally look the same, but there is something about them that does strike me. It could just be their natural charisma, their mannerisms, or something else, but at that point I want to get to know them better.

It could also just be that I wasn’t in a good or social mood when you messaged me. There are many reasons why I don’t respond, and unless I was an ass to you online, I ask that you give me a 2nd chance in person.

In person I’m generally pretty clear if I like you. Not always saying that I want to have sex with you, but friends are always good too. If I’m touching you for more than a couple seconds, it’s a good sign. If I’m avoiding eye contact and talk to you for less than 2-3 minutes, it’s a bad sign, unless I just got to the bar and I’m looking for some friends.

So give me a second chance if you see me in person, and forgive me if I don’t recognize you from your profile. Also, I’ll do my best to give you a second chance in person, but if things still don’t click… it happens.

Many people have their stores that they think of when they think of kink gear – Mr S, Stockroom, etc, but you really should check out Amazon for some of your needs.

I was looking for a cattle prod and found this one, and then I looked down at the “Customers who bought this also bought…” section and I see 2 books called “Two Knotty Boys Show You the Ropes”. Yes, the kinksters love their Amazon.

You can actually find a good variety of things on there – dildos, pumps, jockstraps, and more. Check it out and let me know if you find anything particularly good.

You sure sound like one. Creepy!!!

Sunday evening – i’ve seen you a couple of times and was psyched to see you there today (tall, cap sometimes or dew rag).
You were helping that lady who dropped her weight on the floor. Listeing to you speak
gave me goosebumps – not only are you hot but you sound smart. I was going to walk up to you and
ask how tall you are – always been turned on by taller dudes. Was trying to cruise you while you were in the shower but you
were in your own world. I wish I would have taken a pic of your tight bod and (gulp) impressive manhood. I think the three guys
who kept pretending to tie their shoes/wash their hands right next to you invaded your space. I tried to follow you out of the gym and in my car but
you speed off in your sportscar and I couldn’t tell which direction you went. I promise I’m not a stalker. Really, I’m not. Just thought it would be cool to say hi.
I hope I’ll see you again

[Craigs List - Missed Connections]

If you’re trying not to stalk someone, I’d recommend not following them like a stalker.

Looking to meet people online, but not getting the amount of responses you want? There is one simple way to just that… post a better picture and check out my guide to profile writing.

The site that did this analysis is a straight-oriented site, but I have a feeling it’s not that much different for gays.

Similarly, OKCupid found that photos posted by your typical meathead are pretty successful among women as well. With an overall average just below 6 women met per 10 attempts, men who posted photos without their shirts on met almost 9 women—an average only bested by photos taken with an animal. The site warns, however, that the entertainment value of a half naked man only lasts for so long; as a guy gets older, he’s less likely to get a response out of women with such a picture.

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So it sounds like if you want to get the most traffic to your profile, you should post a shirtless picture of you with an animal. Your own animal would be best.

And if you feel like people never respond to your messages that you send out, you really shouldn’t. You have a better chance of getting a winning hand in blackjack than having someone respond.

According to OKCupid, the average chance that any message will lead to a back-and-forth discussion is at about 27 percent, but a photo of a person doing something interesting (say, playing an instrument, playing a sport, crafting something, etc.) is much higher at a hair over 40 percent. Second to that is posing with an animal (hey, people like animals, okay?) at about 37 percent, while a travel photo sits at just over 30 percent. The categories that are below average for conversations are cleavage shots, MySpace angles, having fun with friends, and most dooming of all, photos of the subject drinking.

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From the views of a single man…

Youve got mail!

There’s a strong allure about hookup sites like Manhunt, adam4adam, Recon, Grindr, etc. It’s taken me a surprisingly long time to figure it out and truly admit what that allure is. Lots of times I’ll stay logged in for the chance that someone I’m interested in will message me, but that rarely happens. I’ll check back after leaving it on for a couple hours and I’ll see 3-4 messages. I’ll cycle through them and depending on my mood, not respond or just the don’t-message-me-again “Thanks”.

It’s the same reason people pan for gold, shop the bargain rack, or go gambling… there’s the chance that you might get lucky and f ind what you are looking for, or in some cases that they’ll find you.

The true reason is the feeling of being desired. Yeah, it’s great to have someone you know tell you that you’re a good person and how much they like you, but often it looses it’s effect over time. Maybe there’s an endorphin reaction to explain it, but it seems like when someone new finds you attractive and find you them attractive, it leaves a better feeling. That initial spark can create an amazing feeling, but then there is the game of whether it continues or fades off into oblivion as if it never happened.

Am I looking for a boyfriend? As much as I want to say “no”, I really am. I’m not desperate and I’m not going to settle, but it would be nice to find one. Maybe it’s just the cold weather, as this is the nesting season, but I hope that’s not the case.

Am I going to find a boyfriend online? Probably not, but in my mind there is always that chance and that’s what drives me to log on. I’m trying to get away from the online hookup world. I’ll still actively visit sites like BigMuscle and Recon, mostly because they aren’t quick hookup sites, and you really can’t meet local guys on them.

To me, the real question is where do you meet guys. There’s always the bars, coffee shops and the gym. The bars did work for me once, but I had to go to a different city for that. As for what else, I don’t really know.

The other question is what do I do with the time that I’m not surfing hookup sites. It’s kind of scary how much time I spend/waste doing it.

Now, if all those boys are lined up knocking on your door to have sex… you better have an orgy, or at least send the others to my place while you’re working on the first one.

I was looking through some profiles, and I’ve seen this like a million times – “if you have (some trait), step to the front of the line.” Do you really have a line?? Because I sure as hell know I don’t have any line of guys waiting to have sex with me that I’m interested in.

Also, are you really ever going to even let the guys at the “back” of the line get in the door? Pretty sure if I lined up the type of guys and things I like in a guy, I probably wouldn’t even touch anything past the first 10%.

Tell people what you like, but don’t make them feel like they are taking a number at a service counter. A) It makes you look like a whore. B) It belittles them  and turns them into more of an object. I know some guys like that, but wait till they message you first.

It’s your time to ask me a question about anything… sexual or otherwise. Maybe you want to know more about me or more about some topic.

Send me an email or leave a comment and I’ll answer it.

Hey everyone,

It looks like everything with the blog is fully working now. My host has been pretty great for the 7 yrs I’ve had them. I’d still highly recommend them, especially for their low prices, despite this outage. It just reminds me that I need to make sure I have good, complete backups of all my files.

Other than a little work on that, this weekend I finally got some real action for the first time in over a month. It was with a guy that I’d been chatting with on Grindr for about a week now. We’d chatted before somewhere, but not sure what happened back then. I just know he was in my Yahoo Messenger already.

He’s a hot guy that’s ready to explore his submissive side, and I’m willing to help him. I told him, he has the easy job… just do what he’s told. He hadn’t been feeling well, and had to cancel. It frustrated me a little, but eventually he was feeling well enough to stop over to meet and a little bit of fun.

Being he wasn’t at 100% and it was late, so I was tired, we didn’t do too much. Just some nip and ball torture, and skull fucking. I also locked my chain collar on his neck, which looked great and he was sad when I took it off him. I ended up shooting a nice big 4 day load down his throat, but being that he was a bad boy and made me wait to meet, I didn’t let him blow.

Once we were all done though, he dropped the bombshell on me… he has a boyfriend. He seems like a great guy, that I would definitely consider dating, but looks like that opportunity isn’t there any more. All of the good, hot guys always seem to already have men. I’m fine being single, but the guys I am interested in dating just aren’t available.

He apparently felt like it was my job to ask the question based on the way he told me. I feel more like it’s his job to disclose that if it’s going to cause some problems. He’s definitely a nice guy, and very obedient. I’ll definitely be meeting up with him again, despite the BF thing.

I found another pic of me on Guys with iPhones.