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So, I was thinking about this while I was in the shower at the gym taking a piss. If I hit myself while pissing in the shower, and kind of enjoy it, does that make it a fetish, or does there need to be a definite sexual/hard-on inducing aspect to it?

First let’s check out a couple dictionary definitions of what a fetish is:

Merriam-Webster

1 a: an object (as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner ; broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence b: an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion : prepossession c: an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression
2: a rite or cult of fetish worshipers
3: fixation

Dictionary.com

1. An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
2. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.

Urban Dictionary

1. An object thought to have magical, especially magically sexual, powers
2. A sexual fixation or obsession with a usually non-sexual object. EX. socks, horses, monkeys, pain, bondage

Just as with all the fetishes out there, there is an equal number of definitions at to what it is. Now I didn’t know it had another definition for a magical object, but we can skip over that one. Now, I’ll admit it, after looking at these definitions, I definitely use the word “fetish” inappropriately.

A fetish is something that a can reduce a person’s sexual experience if it is not present. It can be physical or mental and usually requires outside influence.

I don’t think I have anything that is truly a fetish. I have some things that definitely make my sexual experiences better and easier, but nothing that’s required. Do you have any?

Also, check out and let me know of any unusual fetishes I like to call Fringe Fetishes.

How many of you have been over at a guys house, he asks you to lay on the ground, then he takes a big shit on you?

No… not you?

Well, yes. Some people are into it, but I’ve never done it. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be aware the precautions in case you are interested in exploring it or if you have a friend looking for some advice.

Shit play encompasses a ‘Brown Rainbow’ of sexual desire. Some scat players are only into the visual aspects, such as watching someone take a dump or looking at an unflushed toilet while aroused. Many are into smearing shit on their bodies. Some like to eat shit. Still others are into ‘Farming’ or gathering shit from public toilets. For most it is probably some combination of these activities. [source]

As with any situation, always take the basic precautions – protection and the (not so common) common sense. Basic precautions in this case could include gloves and possibly a dental dam.

Some other things to know is that scat is that it can transmit HIV and other STIs just like you can with blood. There are some other diseases you can get from scat that you can’t get from a nice juicy white load. Those include include e-coli, Hepatitis A, B and C. So, it’s best if you can get the Hepatitis vaccine if you plan to really get into this. Some of these things can kill you, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy this.

There is much more to this than just the precautions, but it’s a place to start. If you have any experience with this, or any questions please let me know.

Hanky color Brown

Hey everyone,

There is a little fetish that I have that I haven’t shared with you. I try to keep it on the down-low, but to truly make this an open blog like I promised – I must admit it.

So, here it is… reading your comments really gets my rocks off. I get rock hard reading them, then I start reading the next one. If there are more than 2-3 comments on a post, that’s it… my screen’s covered in cum. So, if you could help me out, that would be greatly appreciated.

No matter what kind of kinks you are into, dirty talk is an essential part of any bedroom activities (even vanilla!) As a sub, we get our sexual energy from the Dom. So how we “perform” can very well be determined by how the Dom talks to us. Unfortunately, for many people who just start to explore the kink world or are meeting up with complete strangers, it’s difficult to get over the initial embarrassment of talking dirty.

If there is a pair of words that you absolutely need to learn before you start your kink, they will have to be “Sir” and “boy”.

Like many naturally submissive guys, I love being talked down to and there are no other words that can get to my immediately attention than the word “boy”. There is just something naturally degrading about the word. It instantly establishes a hierarchy between the user and the receiver and it is just intimate enough that the receiver feels there is a tiny bit of “love” (or lust) in between. Every time my Master uses the term (which he probably use it 70% even in our “normal” conversations) he reminds and reassures me that I am his property, that he is the Master and I am only good when being told that I am. In a strange way, it’s a comforting word for me and for other subs that I have talked to. In return, by calling my Master “Sir”, I honor his presence and he is the center of my attention.

For beginners who wants to try dirty talks, a great way to start is to verbalize or make a question of the things that you are about to do. For example, when you are about to fuck, instead of just flat staring at each other, try adding some conversational pieces while you are lubing up the condom, like “I’m getting ready to put this cock in you, boy.” And when you’re ready, try a suggestive question like “do you want this meat, boy?” or even “tell me what you want me to do? Tell me how bad you want it.” This will instantly turn all those awkward waiting moments to be foreplay. In times, you will look forward to the talks as much as the sex.

As for subs who likes to take a little bit of control (which you know will just become a humiliation at the end), I suggest start the dirty talk by asking for permissions. Asking whether you can get something from your Master can be arousing for the Master as for yourself. Since my Master will not allow me to touch any part of him without his permission, I have to verbalize almost all my actions. Of course, the fun part is when you start to get denied. It becomes extremely degrading for a sub when he has to ask for permission to do things that he really wants to do (ie: permission to cum or to suck) and things that he hates to happen (ie: permission to be spanked or to lick the floor).

These are just some very basic stuff that are easy to start and hopefully can allow you and your partner to get over the awkwardness of dirty talking. Don’t forget boys, we are not just all butt fucking machines, let’s put some class and dialogues into the sex.

I am starting a new series called Fringe Fetishes. These are going to be things that are even on the outside of the many crazy fetishes I know about. These are going to mostly be things that I have no clue how you would find someone else into them. Remember though, these people are not freaks. They are just into some of the more unusual things. So embrace the kink culture and the diversity within it. If you run across any other Fringe Fetishes, shoot me an email.

I’m going to begin this series with a Craigs List ad that @myriadian on Twitter came across.

any balloon fetish guy on the area?

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Reply to: pers-1021552232@craigslist.org ^[?]
Date: 2009-02-05, 1:20AM EST

here latino with balloon fetish ,looking for similar,we can make a group in dc area contact me with your pics and experience with balloons,we can meet to blow up big balloons together and more.

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Editor’s Warning: This is definitely not for beginners and should only be done with experienced people.

I’m feeling anxious, nervous and really excited. It is my first time in this dungeon space and I haven’t previously played very hard with the Top I’m here with. Yet I’ve agreed to let him use a single tail snake whip on me tonight. Despite the conventional wisdom that says man cannot fly, I am also hoping to Fly tonight. I’m being led through a large dungeon play space that is packed with many very hot leather-clad and naked men engaged in advanced BDSM scenes: floggings, bondage, breath control, needle play, fisting, you name it. The Top I’m with directs me to the far end of the room where a large St. Andrews cross is standing in the corner. He tells me to strip naked.

Despite the fact that I do not have a finely honed gym body (to say the least), I comply with his request immediately and without a lot of nervous stress, because being naked in a room with 40 other men is now the least of my angst. I’m more concerned at this point with not humiliating myself, not embarrassing my Top and generally making sure I’m not in over my head.

St Andrew's Cross

At my Top’s direction I stand facing the cross and the corner, with my back to him. He asks if I would like my wrists and ankles restrained to the cross and I explain that I prefer no restraints. He begins warming up by throwing the whip, but not making direct contact with me. I can hear it whistle right before cracking as it breaks the sound barrier. I can also feel the slight air movement near my back. It’s only a couple of inches away now. I am ready to feel it. And then it happens – the first kiss of the whip against my back. The pain is sharp and stinging. I breathe through the pain and vocally grunt to help process it. He continues building the strokes in a relatively steady rhythm and in a classic V pattern on my back. He builds slowly, ramping to harder lashes with longer contact stripes. By ramping the pain slowly and not “burning his dinner” I am keeping pace with the pain he’s inflicting and processing it with the help of aggressive breathing, loud grunting and tons of sweat. I am about ready to Fly.

So what exactly is “flying?”

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Found this vid over at Twisted Ramblings. While most of my posts tends towards the muscle meat, I wanted to share a little bear love with y’all.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7uUcKF9i5XQ[/youtube]

The group is called Unit 911, their song called “Give it to me”, and their music foscuses on the dark and dirty, especially cops, uniformed men, and leather. WOOF, I know… right. It’s a fucking HOT music video!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTmvZtYRGrA[/youtube]

Go to YouTube and check out the High Quality version.

Howdy fellow perverts and perversion-enthusiasts!

I think it bears repeating that whether your into exxxtreme kink or are merely a vanilla twist*, you should honor your kinks and let your freak flag fly high.

I believe Gene here says it best:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fFHtj2ut4Y[/youtube]

From Wet Hot American Summer

A shout out to all the ass-mud-smearers and fridge-humpers out there. To whatever turns your crank (so long as it involves consenting adults and/or appliances, of course), hold your head high and be proud of who you are!

*vanilla twist means someone with just a slight kink.