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Sunday evening – i’ve seen you a couple of times and was psyched to see you there today (tall, cap sometimes or dew rag).
You were helping that lady who dropped her weight on the floor. Listeing to you speak
gave me goosebumps – not only are you hot but you sound smart. I was going to walk up to you and
ask how tall you are – always been turned on by taller dudes. Was trying to cruise you while you were in the shower but you
were in your own world. I wish I would have taken a pic of your tight bod and (gulp) impressive manhood. I think the three guys
who kept pretending to tie their shoes/wash their hands right next to you invaded your space. I tried to follow you out of the gym and in my car but
you speed off in your sportscar and I couldn’t tell which direction you went. I promise I’m not a stalker. Really, I’m not. Just thought it would be cool to say hi.
I hope I’ll see you again

[Craigs List - Missed Connections]

If you’re trying not to stalk someone, I’d recommend not following them like a stalker.

The site that did this analysis is a straight-oriented site, but I have a feeling it’s not that much different for gays.

Similarly, OKCupid found that photos posted by your typical meathead are pretty successful among women as well. With an overall average just below 6 women met per 10 attempts, men who posted photos without their shirts on met almost 9 women—an average only bested by photos taken with an animal. The site warns, however, that the entertainment value of a half naked man only lasts for so long; as a guy gets older, he’s less likely to get a response out of women with such a picture.

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So it sounds like if you want to get the most traffic to your profile, you should post a shirtless picture of you with an animal. Your own animal would be best.

And if you feel like people never respond to your messages that you send out, you really shouldn’t. You have a better chance of getting a winning hand in blackjack than having someone respond.

According to OKCupid, the average chance that any message will lead to a back-and-forth discussion is at about 27 percent, but a photo of a person doing something interesting (say, playing an instrument, playing a sport, crafting something, etc.) is much higher at a hair over 40 percent. Second to that is posing with an animal (hey, people like animals, okay?) at about 37 percent, while a travel photo sits at just over 30 percent. The categories that are below average for conversations are cleavage shots, MySpace angles, having fun with friends, and most dooming of all, photos of the subject drinking.

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Some Muscle Man Meat

Here’s what’s gotten some of the most traffic since this blog started:

Pages
Wish List
Commando Friday Pics Archive
Witch’s Son series
Hanky Code Guide

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Morphed Pinup: Chained Muscle Beast (NSFW)
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Grindr Review: The family-friendly iPhone App

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I’d like to thank everyone that’s visited this blog. If you have any suggestions for articles, polls, or just want some advice… let me know.

Zumanity is the “Sensual Side of Cirque du Soleil” and that is so very true. It’s full of hot, sexy men… and tons of tits. No full nudity, just tits. It really is an amazing show and worth the money. I’d even spend a little extra to make sure you get a center seat rather than a side seat (where we were).

There is one issue I have with it, and that was one performance about bondage, leather and auto-asphyxiation. If you’ve followed this blog for a while, I wrote about this earlier, which was why I was so startled to see a nightly show that fantasized this EXTREMELY dangerous fetish.

I understand that there are people out there that do it and that it can be done safely, but in a performance environment like Zumanity, I don’t feel like those issues were able to properly be addressed. I’m as kinky as the next guy. Ok, maybe a little more.

I thought maybe this had slipped past people and they may not have noticed that the performer was choking herself 20+ feet above the stage in an artistic manner, but nope… they noticed and even commented about it. They actually thought it was kind of cool.

Watching someone walk a tight-rope isn’t something that you’ll probably try, or go swinging from a rope with no harness. But with how sensual and erotic the show was, I could see someone potentially going home and trying that. I was mortified to see it, and it will likely stay a part of the show, but in the kinky world the lines between fantasy and reality aren’t as blurred as they are for many people.

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Eye Candy - Vince Ferelli (He makes me gaga)

Also, I know the past year has been difficult for a lot of people. Think about my mantra below, as I do each day.

Remember the past. Hope for the future. Live in the present.

Youve got mail!

There’s a strong allure about hookup sites like Manhunt, adam4adam, Recon, Grindr, etc. It’s taken me a surprisingly long time to figure it out and truly admit what that allure is. Lots of times I’ll stay logged in for the chance that someone I’m interested in will message me, but that rarely happens. I’ll check back after leaving it on for a couple hours and I’ll see 3-4 messages. I’ll cycle through them and depending on my mood, not respond or just the don’t-message-me-again “Thanks”.

It’s the same reason people pan for gold, shop the bargain rack, or go gambling… there’s the chance that you might get lucky and f ind what you are looking for, or in some cases that they’ll find you.

The true reason is the feeling of being desired. Yeah, it’s great to have someone you know tell you that you’re a good person and how much they like you, but often it looses it’s effect over time. Maybe there’s an endorphin reaction to explain it, but it seems like when someone new finds you attractive and find you them attractive, it leaves a better feeling. That initial spark can create an amazing feeling, but then there is the game of whether it continues or fades off into oblivion as if it never happened.

Am I looking for a boyfriend? As much as I want to say “no”, I really am. I’m not desperate and I’m not going to settle, but it would be nice to find one. Maybe it’s just the cold weather, as this is the nesting season, but I hope that’s not the case.

Am I going to find a boyfriend online? Probably not, but in my mind there is always that chance and that’s what drives me to log on. I’m trying to get away from the online hookup world. I’ll still actively visit sites like BigMuscle and Recon, mostly because they aren’t quick hookup sites, and you really can’t meet local guys on them.

To me, the real question is where do you meet guys. There’s always the bars, coffee shops and the gym. The bars did work for me once, but I had to go to a different city for that. As for what else, I don’t really know.

The other question is what do I do with the time that I’m not surfing hookup sites. It’s kind of scary how much time I spend/waste doing it.

Sorry for not blogging much recently. I promise I’ll start up again soon.

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Nothing bad’s happened. Recently I’ve just been kind of withdrawn from a lot of things. It’s good though, it’s giving me time to think and figure things out. Nothing caused this… it just happens, like a lot of things in life. You just have to make the most of it and work through it.

I’ve gotten some more motivation at the gym though. Mostly through the help of a friend, even though he may not know it. He sent me the picture below because it reminded him of me. I can see it a little in the face, but otherwise I don’t see it at all. For me though, it’s like looking in a mirror and seeing what I could look like. And I really hope I do some day. It’s giving me great motivation to push it hard at the gym. I actually set him as my desktop wallpaper, so I have to stay at him/me every day. Ok, I enjoy it a littlee…

Wish y’all the best! *hugs*

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There aren’t many iPhone apps out there for kinksters. Actually this is the first one targeted at us that I’ve ever heard of. There are a couple gay apps like Grindr.

Before you delve to far into this, if you don’t know what the Hanky Code is, check out an earlier post I did about it.

The Hanky Code app is a $1.99 app that allows you to select from an array of hankies to that will be displayed on your iPhone. The blue hanky, to the right, is an example of what is displayed on your iPhone screen.

Select your Hanky and position.

Not only are those features included, but you can also read about the history of the Hanky Code.

A for how someone would actually use this to flag, it’s best to read directly from the creator in an interview with Butt Magazine:

How does it work? Is it like Grindr?
Not really. Suppose you were at a bar and you saw someone with a real hanky in their back pocket, you could just pull up the app real quick, click on the color and it would give you the meaning. The app also will light up your screen with a picture of whatever hanky you are so the iPhone actually becomes the hanky. If you’re at a coffee shop or a restaurant somewhere and you’re working on your computer you can have your iPhone to the left or to the right of your computer or your coffee and guys walk by and the notice it and they’re like ‘hmm.’

So… yeah. Please let me know if you see someone doing this and if possible take a picture and send it to me. Firstly, the app costs $1.99 so unless you truly find the novelty worth it, I’d recommend just going out and buying an actual hanky. If you want to look up the hanky code, just visit this site on your iPhone, for my iPhone optimized site, click the little down arrow to the right side and you can view my large list of Hanky Codes.

The history of the Hanky Code in the app

The other major problem I have with the app is the extreme lack of hanky colors. While the red hanky (fisting) does flash up when you start the app, it disappears and you can’t select it from the list. Another very popular color, yellow (watersports/pissing), is missing from the list. Instead you have one’s for people with a “navel fetish”. With the minimal amount of time it would take to create a more extensive list of hankies, I’m disappointed in the app. And amazed that they charge $1.99 for it.

I’d recommend avoiding this app for now. Maybe in the future it’ll actually become useful, but for now it’s a poor novelty app. I’ll let you know if it does become better being that I did waste the $1.99 so you guys wouldn’t need to.

We know why we eat, we know why we work, but do we know why we have kinky, bdsm sexy? What is it about being spanked that gets you going? What is it about tugging on someone’s nips that makes your cock bounce a little?

There’s so much that’s pleasurable in life, and yet it seems that some of the ultimate pleasure comes from sexually charged connections with another person. Don’t infer that I meant there has to be an orgasm, but the sexual energy and connection that exists. I’m sure there are scientific reasons for some of it, but they won’t explain why I like to beat a muscle boy’s ass black and blue, while the next guy wouldn’t even pick up a paddle.

Jack Rinella, from the Master’s Manual, does make a very good point that if you aren’t at least beginning to understand why you like kinky, bdsm, leather sex; it’s best to stop until you do. I have to agree with him there. There MUST be a basic understanding of why you enjoy it. It’s not going to be something easy to define, it’ll likely take an entire lifetime to begin to even figure out, and by then things will have changed so much it’ll just be looking back on a nostalgic past.

On top of the time it’ll take to figure out why there are many aspects to a connection – physical, romantic, sexual, mental, emotional, and spiritual. A true and powerful experience will touch on all of those. I have yet to experience something like that yet. For me it’s going to have to be an experience with a life-long partner. It takes me a while to build a true connection with a person. As with all things kinky, while thinking about those things, the box is going to need to be broken and the crayon is going to go outside of the lines.