Recently this came up and I’m wondering what others think. If someone says that they are “safe only”, which very likely means no barebacking, do you expect that they will swallow cum? What about sucking cock without a condom in general?
This past weekend (it was “this past weekend” when I started writing this post months ago) I was at a Halloween party with my friends and somehow this question popped into my head, Can you be a vegan and bottom for watersports (piss play)?
Now we talked about this at length and even brought others into the conversation. I proposed it to my twitter and Facebook followers too.
When you first think of this question it sounds like a no-brainer of “yes”, why couldn’t a vegan enjoy watersports? Well, of you’re a vegan you can consume things from animals including meat, eggs and milk.
So, then the answer is obviously “no” right? Well, what if the difference is that a person can provide consent. This gets a bit trickier. Say you’re wandering around a forest and a chicken just laid an egg and then walked away and was hit by a car. Can a vegan eat it? I’m not really sure on that one.
Now what about sex? If it is true that a vegan can’t enjoy watersports, there is no way they could bottom for fucking or cocksucking because there is some fluid exchange. Also, does this extend to kissing and saliva?
Yes, it was a crazy conversation and we never really came up with a true answer. What do y’all think?
One part of my profile that a LOT of people seem to like is the “forced workouts” and “forced muscle growth”. First let me give you my definitions of them:
Forced workouts Pushing a person to do an exercise, often beyond their comfortable limits. Could include doing excessive pushups while shackled to a spreader bar and the Dom’s boot on your back pushing you down with each set, or it could be more subtlety at the gym pushing the person like a “good” gym partner.
Forced muscle growth This is an extension of forced workouts and can not be done in a single session. In addition to strict workouts, this could include a strict diet, forced steroids and potentially other supplements. The sole intention is to make the person build muscle.
I get a variety of people that will message me about these from bodybuilder muscle slaves to average guys and even chubs. I do have a problem with guys that haven’t ever set a foot in the gym, but seem to have an interest in someone forcing them to workout. Why should I make you workout if you don’t have the self-determination to do it on your own? I can accept it if you do workout, but are looking for help, or used to in the past and took a break, but to have never stepped into a gym…
The part that really gets me about this, why should I let you serve me and invest time in you if you’re not willing to have the self-respect to invest time in yourself? I do to the gym 5 times a week to be healthy and so I look good. I would be lying if I fully said it was about health; I want to look good so I can get hot guys and feel better about myself. There is also a healthy eating aspect to it too, but I’m not even going to touch that right now.
One part I can understand is the idea of submitting to a person and having them mold you into their vision. For me that would be to mold someone into a massive muscle freak. And while I understand the desire to submit because you aren’t able to do it on your own, I need a sub that has the self-determination and self-respect to take care of their own body.
If you want to get going at the gym, the first step is getting a gym membership. They key is finding a gym that is convenient to you; either on your way home from work or near your home/office. The next step is figuring out your goals and how to get there. This is going to vary for each person, but be very clear with your goals. Once you have your goals, I recommend finding a trainer. There is no problem “shopping” around for trainers until you find one that fits you and your goals. From there it’s just dedication. It can help to have a training partner, and more vital is to just make it a part of your daily routine.
I ask because:
- I don’t like being out of control, but simultaneously want someone else I can trust to take over.
- I’ve never bottomed before but constantly think about it.
- I have a dominant, fiesty personality but wish I could meet someone who saw through that and took charge.
It sounds like you’re submissive, but haven’t found the right person to work with you. It should take time to get to know someone and see if you want to submit to them. There may be a connection and there may not be. You might want to also explore the Dom(inant) side of things too.
The key on either side is to find mentors that can help you out, and may even train you themselves. They can be other subs or Doms. The key is that you have to get out and explore. If you are having these urges and impulses, it’s good to do your best to explore them.
As for the bottoming part of the question, you can try that apart from the kinky stuff. And being a bottom and submissive do not have to go together. You can be a Dominant bottom and a submissive top, they are just harder to find. When you do bottom, as always, I recommend playing safe and sober. It will reduce any risks that you might catch something regardless of what they tell you their status is. Never trust a person because even they might not know for sure.
Also, if you have a question about anything – email me.
Just found a violet wand made by KinkLab. It just arrived today, so I haven’t had a chance to really play with it, but it does look fun. I’ve always wanted one and at $110 from Stockroom, it was finally time to dive in. Normally these are like $250+, so I could tell this was definitely more of a beginner level, and that was fine with me because I’ve never explored electro play before.
The great thing about it, even though it is a beginner level, is that they attachments can be used on more expensive violet wands and vice versa. If you have any suggestions on what to do with a violet wand, post a comment.
I got this question from a reader. If you have questions, email me.
It sounds like you might be looking specifically for forums, and I don’t regularly read any like that. If you want to read more about it, check out some of the blogs I link to.
Another great option in a fairly public forum that can provide great opportunities, but still limit is to use Twitter. It’s a great place to find kinky guys and ask them questions. Feel free to start looking through my friends list for some. If you’re solely looking for information and not to hook-up Twitter can be especially good, but make sure you don’t avoid guys then because they don’t match your ideal type.
Some good places to find kinky guys to chat with and possibly hook-up with are Recon and FetishMen. FetishMen is a more recent site to come up. It is setup with more of a Facebook feel and has some great chat rooms. Also, if you have suggestions just use the contact/support link and hopefully they can help you out quickly. Recon is another site that has been around a bit longer and has a larger user-base. They recently did cut their chat rooms and their site has been lacking updates recently, but there are some knowledgeable guys there.
Those are some good places to start and maybe some readers can leave some comments with suggestions they have too.
Wow, so it’s been over a month since my last post. Sorry y’all. My goal is to post at least once a week. Start prodding me if I don’t keep to that.
I have been reluctant for a long time to accept that I’m a bear/cub. It’s mostly because when I think of bears, I think of overweight guys that may (or may not) be furry. And while that is true to some degree it’s not always true. Bears come in a variety of sizes and shapes including bears, polar bears, otters, wolves, cubs, and a plethora of other creatures that I’ve probably never even heard of. And no, I’m not going to go into what each type is, but this wikipedia article may shed some light on it.
While being a bear is somewhat about looks, it’s also a lot about personality that comes with it. Since I’ve been in Seattle, many of my friends fit into the “bear family”. Even my friends in Austin were mostly part of the bear family. It’s always been where I’ve felt the most comfortable.
I truly came to accept it just this weekend. It started out with buying the wooden bears you see above. They are also leather-scented and they smell amazing. I bought them at Doghouse Leather in Seattle. For a second before I bought them, I was like “do I really want to buy them because they are bears.” Then I just said “fuck it” and bought them. Then today I was at some friends’ birthday party, all of whom are pretty much bears, and realized it was where I fit in and I just need to accept the label and it isn’t something to get hostile about, like I have some times in the past.
There you go, I declare myself a leather/kink muscle bear/cub. I’m not really sure the difference between bears and cubs. I also do like other muscle bears/cubs, especially if they are submissive and pain pigs 😛
Although I’ve never actually been able to lock a boy up in chastity, it’s a huge interest of mine. The idea of cum denial and not letting a sub cum until I decide is very hot and an amazing amount of control.
One of my friends found a web application that can help you determine how long to lock up a boy, or lock up yourself. The app measures time in weeks, but I would start out with days, then maybe multiply the days by 2 until you’re comfortable getting up to weeks.
The app is pretty simple and could be done with some dice too.
Oh, also, if there is anyone that needs to be locked up, especially hot, muscle studs in the Seattle area… let me know.